LGBTQ+ Relationships
Complex Truama in LGBTQ+ Relationships
Living as a queer person and being in a non-traditional relationship can be challenging in a world that lacks acceptance. As a gay married man, I understand the complexities of being in a queer relationship. Many queer individuals struggle to connect with their authentic selves, making deep connections within relationships more difficult. Often, queer people must conceal parts of themselves, prioritize others' desires or needs, or resort to harmful coping mechanisms in order to navigate life. All of these experiences are symptoms of complex trauma.
Complex trauma is the result of enduring numerous traumatic events within the context of relationships.You might have experienced complex trauma if you did not receive proper care and attention as a child, you needed to suppress your true identity to gain acceptance, if you were betrayed by a partner, or if you experienced exploitation. This type of trauma profoundly influences how one engages in relationships. While many who have experienced complex trauma yearn for connection, yet find it intimidating or even dangerous to establish deep meaningful connections.
My aim is to assist you in discovering and embracing your authenticity and vitality, and to help you cultivate relationships with yourself and your partner(s) that are safe, affectionate, and fulfilling. I want you to feel confident in being your true self and to eliminate the fear of judgment.
As an accepting and empathetic therapist, I specialize in providing support and guidance across a diverse spectrum of relationship dynamics. Whether you are navigating the exciting journey of moving in together, entering a new stage in your relationship, seeking to strengthen your partnership, opening your relationship to non-monogamy, exploring kinks, or facing challenges in navigating polyamory, I am here to offer a safe and nonjudgmental space for open communication.
My approach is rooted in understanding the unique needs and dynamics of each relationship, fostering trust, and promoting healthy communication. With a commitment to inclusivity and respect for diverse identities and orientations, I strive to help individuals and couples build fulfilling, authentic connections while navigating the complexities of modern relationships.
Religious Trauma and Survivors of Conversion Therapy
Religion and culture often teaches us how to operate in relationships. Growing up in a religious or cultural environment that negated one's identity, labeled it as sinful or wrong, or demanded that you change who you are, can deeply influence how individuals perceive themselves and their relationships. Individuals who have gone through these experiences often internalize shame, guilt, and fear, which can hinder authentic connections with partners. I work with partnerships affected by varying degrees of religious trauma or survivors of conversion therapy, helping them navigate the lingering effects such as challenges in intimacy, communication issues, shame-based behaviors, and mistrust. My goal is to assist you and your partner(s) in moving past these traumas so you can connect without shame and authentically.
