Relationship Therapy
What is Relationship Therapy?
I describe myself as a relationship therapist because I specialize in relationships, both with oneself and others. A relationship therapist helps individuals form deeper and more meaningful connections. This doesn't exclusively refer to romantic relationships. You may wish to explore obstacles hindering your connections with friends, family, or delve into issues surrounding self-worth.
I work with all types of relationship dynamics, including monogamous couples, open relationships, Queer and LGBTQIA+ partnerships, and non-traditional relationships. I love helping individuals and partners connect, accept, and love their authentic selves while facilitating a deeper connection with their loved ones.
My approach is rooted in understanding the unique needs and dynamics of each relationship, fostering trust, and promoting healthy communication. I strive to help individuals and couples build fulfilling, authentic connections while navigating the complexities of modern relationships.
Reasons People Seek Relationship Therapy
Low Self-esteem or Self-worth
Infidelity or Loss of Trust
Communication Issues
Loss of Passion or Sex in the Relationship
Extended Family Issues
Differing Values and Beliefs
Life Transitions
Life Stressor Impacting the Relationship
Navigating Chronic Illness
Cohabitating Issues
Conflict Resolution or Frequently Fighting
Fear of Committing for a Long Term Relationship
Common Questions about Relationship Therapy
What if my partner doesn’t want to come to therapy?
If your partner doesn't want to come to couples therapy with you, there may be many valid reasons for this. Some people view couples therapy as the first step towards the end of a relationship. Others may fear that the therapist will take sides or blame them for the relationship issues. Additionally, some couples have had negative experiences with therapy in the past, leading their partner to be reluctant to return. I understand these concerns, and coercing them to attend therapy might harm the relationship.
As a system-focused therapist, I believe that all components within a system are interconnected and influence each other. Changing one aspect of the system can lead to shifts in dynamics. Therefore, having one partner in therapy, working on themselves and their relationship dynamics, can create changes within the relationship as a whole.
When to start couples therapy? In short, don’t wait to be in crisis!
The time to start couples therapy is not only during times of crisis or when the relationship is on the brink of ending; rather, it can be immensely beneficial at various stages of a relationship. Even when your relationship is in a good place, such as at the beginning of a committed relationship or when entering into a new stage, it can be helpful to gain effective communication skills, discuss agreements and boundaries, and learn how to navigate these stages together. Waiting until a relationship reaches a crisis point can result in deeper emotional wounds, resentment, and can make the path to resolution more challenging.
Couples therapy is valuable when there's a sense of disconnect, communication breakdowns, or unresolved issues that, if left unaddressed, may escalate over time. Starting therapy earlier, during less critical moments, allows couples to proactively address concerns, develop stronger communication skills, and gain a deeper understanding of each other's needs and perspectives. I urge couples to enter therapy together before a crisis arises, as it serves as a preventive measure, helping them build a foundation of trust and intimacy. By seeking therapy when challenges arise but haven't reached a breaking point, couples can foster a healthier, more resilient relationship and develop the tools to navigate future difficulties effectively.
I'm Afraid Of Being Judged Or That My Therapist May Take A Side
When you enter into relationship therapy with me, the relationship between the individuals involved is my client, not the clients themselves. I will prioritize what is best for the relationship. This means there may be times when I upset or disagree with you. Conflict and ruptures are natural in all relationships, even with your therapist! While I strive not to take sides, there may be instances when I challenge you in ways you may not like. Please understand that it is not personal; it is about what is best for the relationship. If you feel that I am taking a side, please let me know, and I will gladly explain the clinical reasons behind my position.
No Judgements- Accepting Of All Types Of Relationships
As an accepting and empathetic therapist, I specialize in providing support and guidance across a diverse spectrum of relationship dynamics. Whether you are navigating the exciting journey of premarital counseling, a new stage in your relationship, seeking to strengthen your marriage, I am here to offer a safe and nonjudgmental space for open communication.
Intimacy Heals Complex Trauma
When we grow up in an invalidating, misattuned, or abusive environment, relationships can feel threatening. Being your authentic self can feel dangerous or being exposed. This is often the result of complex trauma, which involves experiencing multiple traumatic events over an extended period of time within the context of relationships.
I am aligned with Terry Real’s approach to couples therapy. Terry Real, a renowned therapist and author, emphasizes the profound healing potential of intimacy in addressing complex trauma within the context of couples therapy. He underscores the idea that genuine connection and intimacy within relationships can play a crucial role in healing the deep wounds associated with attachment failures and complex trauma. By fostering a secure and supportive relational environment, individuals can experience a sense of safety and vulnerability, allowing them to move through past traumas and create the life they desire.
